Child Custody Battle and Visitation
How to go to Visitation Without Throwing Up
Is a book for young children about coping with regular visitation to
separate parents, especially long-distance visitation. Written in very
simple language arising from the point of view of a young boy who had a
hard time adjusting to the stress of traveling back and forth to visit
his mother. This book offers more than
just a mere advisory text - it has point-by-point observations, travel
safety tips, and numerous fun activities to pass the travel time. How To
Go To Visitation Without Throwing Up is highly recommended reading and a
great resource for any parent having to take a child on a long distance
trip to visit friends and relations. The Midwest Book Review Internet
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Avg. Customer Review:
, April 20, 2005
(Calabasas, CA United States)
Because the author is young, there is little pretension. This
book is a very honest and forthright account of how the child
feels about visitation. It's ups and downs and how to approach
it well. A good read especially for kids in his
kids, for kids -- and parents, too
, April 15, 2005
Written by a "little" boy who sounds wiser than his years, this
book for children of divorce is a perfect combination of
empathy, practicality, and distraction.
Headings like "Does Anyone Like Visitation?", "Why Kids Don't
Want to Go," and "Why Kids Worry" address the real issues kids
face when they have to (as Joshua, the author, put it) "leave
one home to go to another." In clear language, they highlight
feelings kids really have about visitation, and, in so doing,
validate those feelings and comfort the many children who think
they are alone in their worries. Joshua dwells just long enough
on these sections to be a comfort to others -- and then, as his
readers will want to do, he moves on to practical things.
He suggests things to pack that make visitation trips more fun,
and lists information (phone numbers, addresses, full names,
etc) that kids flying alone should know before they leave home.
He lists what will and will not help when a child is worried or
scared about visitation, and he talks about ways to calm or to
face those worries.
It's not all talk-talk-talk, though: Joshua includes numerous
suggestions for activities to do while traveling or to distract
yourself when worried, and lots of fill-in pages to consider
your own feelings.
One of my favorite things about this slim volume is its
versatility: kids can take it with them anywhere as a
combination guidebook/workbook/activity book. Pages are left
blank for name anagrams, maps, worry lists, pictures of "happy
times," etc. My favorites are the Wish List ("If you know what
you want, you will have a better chance of getting it") and
Though they are usually trying to do what they think is best for
their children, adults embroiled in custody battles sometimes
forget that it is their CHILDREN'S LIVES that are being
re-ordered by a court, without their permission and usually
without their input. This book would be helpful not only to help
those children understand their feelings and cope with things
they can't change, but to help parents -- and indeed anyone who
works with children -- to understand what kids are going
The only caveat to my five-star recommendation is this: the book
mentions God (and occasionally Jesus, in the statements of other
children) several times. I do not see this as a shortcoming;
acknowledging and working with a Higher Power is very helpful
and necessary for many -- perhaps most -- people. Adults
purchasing the book should be aware of this bias, and help
children to understand it in the context of their own spiritual
Stars and 5 Hugs
, May 12, 2003
Jackie Runge (Palm
As good a book for parents as for children. This young author
addresses the challenges children face and demonstrates how
children and their parents inadverntly make things harder. His
ideas for understanding and improving things are great.
I enjoyed the pages where Joshua identifies the many dangers
in the world (in alphabetical order) including Ants, Avalanche,
Baths, Bears, Bees, Burglars, Bombs, Crocodiles, Dogs, Drowning,
Earthquake, Flood, Forest Fire, Homework, Hurricane, Kiss,
Lightning, Monsters, Quicksand, Sharks, Snakes, Spiders, Stage
Fright, Terrorist,, Things Under the Bed, Tornado and the
Unknown. He lists where the danger lurks, such as Mountains,
Where it is Warm or Everywhere. Then Joshua answers "Can I Get
Hurt?" with responses like, No kid has ever died from getting
clean. Not Ever. or Stay on paths, don't move logs, don't try to
kill or tease snakes.
The pages about the things that worry children (including;
the dark, getting sick, not having friends, getting dead, scary
movies, tests at school, germs, answering questions in class,
bullies, making mistakes, losing my things, AND MORE ...) and
how he and his friends cope are WONDERFUL. Lots of feelings
explored in a very positive tone.
Kid's Advice to Other Kids. Well Done!
, March 19, 2003
Reviewer: A reader
A really good piece of work. Doesn't make the child responsible
for the actions of the adults. Helps the child identify,
understand and deal with the feelings in a hands-on manner.
Amazing how it addresses many of the worries children face.
Visualizing the big picture of parenting time while recognizing
that it takes small steps to get there. Everyone must work hard
to accomplish a process made more difficult by the legal system
and distance. I have an adult child that faced these challenges
and a small child that faces them now. I wish the grown child
had had this book. The younger child really enjoyed it.
Helping Kids to Cope with Visitation
, March 1, 2003
Sherrie L Clifford (Thorofare,
NJ United States)
This book is very well written for kids of all ages. Joshua has
written a book that will help many kids going through the life
of being bounced around from one parent to parent which is not
easy for a child at any age. ...Great job Joshua...
Since March 1992