My name is Joshua and I have been going to visitation since I was born in October 1991. I have got there by car, van, 18 wheeler truck, train, taxicab and airplane. When I was a baby I didn't care.

When I got bigger I would cry not to go. My dad would hold me and I would shake and cry. I wasn't afraid of my mom I just did not want to go away. I wanted everyone I loved to stay around me. I traveled to visitation and home 4 to 6 times a year for the big holidays, spring break and summer.

Later I would get mad because my friends where I lived most of the time would get to do lots of stuff while I was gone. My dad said it was not only a order of the court but it was the right thing to do. It cost my mom and my dad a lot of money and trouble to send me back and forth. I would get upset and worried about going and sometimes I made a big deal out of it. I would say I never wanted to go ever again. Sometimes I would even throw-up.

My mom had to work a lot. I spent most of my time with a baby-sitter and sometimes with my grown-up half-sister and her children. I love my mom and would have a great time with her. I wouldn't be nervous or worried when I was with her.

Then last summer my mom said she probably would not have the money to have me for the summer. I got really upset. I was surprised because I thought I didn't want to go. But when I thought I couldn't go my feelings were hurt. Finally I did get to go for 9 days instead of 42 and I was happy. Now it looks like I won't get to see her much and I am sad about that. I would like to go and see her when I want to see her. Not when the judge or the money says I can.

Visitation has been a big thing in my life and I hope I can help you with yours. Joshua Evans

Some grown-ups don't like the name of my book but they like the stuff in it.
Children and grown-ups have reviewed my book so I hope you will not pay
attention to the name and give me a chance to help.  Josh.

Highly Recommend
     My step-daughter often flew to Chicago when she was growing up to spend time with her father who had moved there. She adored her step sisters and brothers and always had a good time once she was in Chicago. But the thought of the trip and the return always daunted her. I analyzed this book in terms of how much solace it would have provided to her when she was about 10. I think the book would have been a brilliant resource for her.

The book has several different focuses which include:
1. Things that children wish their divorced parents would do and not do.
2. Things that children wish the other people in their lives would do and not do.
3. Affirmations to deal with fears about visitations and other scary subjects.
4. Advice on how to handle the trip with the most pleasure and least risk.
5. Lists to help organize for the trip.
6. Activities to do while traveling and during the visitation.
7. Solace that others have done this before and survived just fine.

     In that sense, this isn't a book designed to be read and memorized from beginning to end. It's more like a book to dip into selectively when one needs objective support. It might especially come in handy when a child cannot reach a parent by telephone to talk about her or his feelings.
     I suspect that Joshua Shane Evans' step-mother gave him more than a little assist on this project. I salute her for doing so . . . and doing so without adding her name to the cover. Nice!